The Hidden Cost of Working for Yourself
The Hidden Cost of Working for Yourself The part no one tells you about independence is that it removes more than constraints. It removes daily contact—and the nervous system notices long before the mind does. Before you read further, do one small check. Look back over the last five workdays and name how many conversations […]
Affirmations don’t fail. They reveal.
Affirmations don’t fail. They reveal. As we affirm that our new year will be better, let’s look at how affirmations actually work. Affirmations don’t change your reality unless your body can tolerate the truth they’re pointing toward, and when it can’t, they don’t motivate you; they expose the lie you’ve been living inside. Pick one […]
Why Regulation Comes Before Insight: What New Trauma Research Confirms About Group-Based Somatic Work
Why Regulation Comes Before Insight: What New Trauma Research Confirms About Group-Based Somatic Work Every so often, a study doesn’t just add data—it clarifies direction. A recent PLOS ONE research protocol examines a group-based, somatic trauma intervention for women who survived sexual violence. At first glance, that may seem outside the scope of men’s work. […]
The Phase You’re In Isn’t Broken
The Phase You’re In Isn’t Broken There’s a moment that shows up quietly for men who’ve actually done some work. Nothing collapses. Nothing explodes. Life keeps functioning. But something that used to work—emotionally, relationally, internally—stops. The conversations feel thinner. The practices feel dull. Effort no longer produces the same return. You’re not falling apart, but […]
The Third Body: Why Congruence Is a Group Event
Why Alignment Feels Like Safety Congruence Isn’t Just an Inside Job Most of the men I work with come to believe that congruence is an inside job. Get clear. Get aligned. Match what you feel with what you say and do. It’s a clean idea, and it sounds right. It just doesn’t work as well […]
Why Talking Isn’t Enough: The Three Layers That Transform Relationships
Why Talking Isn’t Enough: The Three Layers That Transform Relationships Most of us try to fix our relationships by talking. We analyze, we explain, we negotiate, we try to make sense of what just happened. And when that doesn’t work, we talk some more. The mistake isn’t in speaking — it’s in assuming that words […]
The New Era of Men’s Retreats: Why MELD Prime Works When Emotion Alone Doesn’t
The New Era of Men’s Retreats: Why MELD Prime Works When Emotion Alone Doesn’t Where Men’s Work Began and Why It Had to Evolve In the last two decades, men’s retreats have gone from fringe to mainstream. Early programs like Mankind Project (MKP) helped thousands of men break the silence around emotion. They made it […]
Types of Men’s Retreats–How to Choose One That Lasts
Types of Men’s Retreats–How to Choose One That Lasts Why So Many Retreats Don’t Stick Men’s retreats have become a booming industry, ranging from silent meditation weekends to adventure-based expeditions. Yet most men who attend them say the same thing afterward: “It was powerful, but it didn’t last.” The truth is that many retreats focus […]
Centripetal Healing: The Path Back to Center
Centripetal Healing: The Path Back to Center In nature, nothing moves aimlessly for long. Rivers spiral, storms rotate, planets orbit. These forces – centripetal forces – pull things inward toward balance and stability. They keep chaos from flying apart. Your body works the same way. When we experience trauma, the opposite force takes over. Instead […]
When Strength Becomes a Cage: How Men Can Redefine Success and Connection
When Strength Becomes a Cage: How Men Can Redefine Success and Connection In a world that celebrates false stoicism and success over connection and authenticity, many men find themselves silently struggling. On the surface, life seems perfect: successful careers, stable families, and well-earned respect. But beneath it all lies a growing sense of emptiness. If […]