Functional Health: The Best Investment You Can Make
Functional Health: The Best Investment You Can Make Through the 1980s and 90s, when I ran a small integrated medical clinic serving stressed-out professionals and elite athletes, I kept seeing the same pattern: when people improved their physical health, their emotional state always improved. They became happier, had more energy, and gained the capacity to […]
How the Vagus Nerve Heals the Body and Builds Connection
How the Vagus Nerve Heals the Body and Builds Connection Two leading scientists have shown how one nerve sits at the center of both health and relationships. Neurosurgeon Kevin Tracey, MD (author of The Great Nerve), demonstrates how the vagus nerve regulates inflammation and restores physiological balance. Behavioral neuroscientist Stephen Porges, PhD (author of The […]
MELD vs IFS: How Nervous System Work Complements Parts-Based Therapy
MELD vs IFS: How Nervous System Work Complements Parts-Based Therapy We are often asked about how the work at MELD compares to IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy. Both work with the parts of ourselves from which we become disconnected because of trauma, stress, lack of safety, lack of connection, and our culture. A few years […]
What Happens When You Share What Only You Can Give
What Happens When You Share What Only You Can Give I didn’t set out to “add value.” That phrase was not even in my vocabulary when I was a kid. I was just trying to keep up with everyone else, to avoid standing out for the wrong reasons. With dyslexia and Asperger’s, it was like […]
Why Insight Alone Won’t Change You: The New Science of Men’s Healing
Why Insight Alone Won’t Change You: The New Science of Men’s Healing Stop Blaming the Man; Blame the Model In recent years, a quiet frustration has been growing among men working to change. These are men who have gone to therapy, read the books, tracked their childhood patterns, and practiced better communication with their partners. […]
Behavior Is Contagious—So What Are You Catching?
Behavior Is Contagious—So What Are You Catching? I’ve been listening to Malcolm Gladwell’s Revenge of the Tipping Point, and it struck a nerve. Not because it’s about dramatic social shifts or political pivots, but because it confirmed something I’ve seen quietly changing men’s lives for years: Behavior doesn’t just change because someone “tries harder.” Behavior […]
Where Are All the Elders? The Missing Piece Men Are Searching For
Where Are All the Elders? The Missing Piece Men Are Searching For Something happened in one of our groups recently that’s been sitting with me. A man raised his hand and asked if we could spend the evening talking about elderhood. Not because he was old, he wasn’t, because he felt the absence of it. […]
Becoming Your Own Agent: The Hidden Cost of Outsourcing Your Life to AI
Becoming Your Own Agent: The Hidden Cost of Outsourcing Your Life to AI AI agents vs. being your own agent — and why it matters now more than ever There’s never been a more powerful time to outsource your life. AI agents (software systems that act on your behalf) can now write your emails, summarize […]
Reclaiming the Real: How Men Can Return to Creativity, Community, and Struggle
Reclaiming the Real: How Men Can Return to Creativity, Community, and Struggle A continuation of last week’s: PART 1: THE GREAT SHIFT – FROM MAKERS TO WATCHERS When men stopped making, something vital went missing. Not just from the culture. From our nervous systems. Because being a man isn’t about being in charge or having […]
From Makers to Watchers: Why Men Feel Lost in a World of Consumption
From Makers to Watchers: Why Men Feel Lost in a World of Consumption There’s a quiet tragedy unfolding around us—so quiet that most men don’t even notice it happening. We’ve been told we’re more connected, more informed, and more entertained than ever before. But beneath the constant ping of updates and endless options, a deeper […]